What Matters – the song and dream that changed me

Originally posted here by Nico Boesten.

3 years after my dad died of cancer, I had an incredibly life-like dream where I not only saw my dad, but encountered him in a way that changed my life. This song is a response to that encounter and dedicated to my dad, my best friend, and encourager until his last breath: Henk Boesten (1948 – 2008)





What Matters NicoLYRICS:

When my father died
Something inside
Felt like a piece of me was torn out

I just can’t seem to find it again
Aching for the affirmation
But there’s silence and I’m left here without

I’m filled with emotion
I’m filled with the notion
That what matters — remains

I had a crazy dream
There in front of me
Just the way I remember him — my old man

Bright blue eyes staring right through
Everything I tried to hide he knew
(he said) “Son, don’t hide your face in your hands”

Now that you know what you know
So much has been taken
How am I supposed to carry on



Lead vocal track was actually the very first (and only) scratch track
Music video recorded in the actual spot where my dad’s ashes are buried
In “the Story” video, the audio you hear is the actual blessing my dad gave me in the hospital 1 week before he died
The instrumental portion after the bridge has an actual beer bottle solo in it. Watch it being played here.



Written by Nico Boesten along with Andrew Smith & Norm Strauss
Lead Vox, Acoustic Guitar: Nico Boesten
Fretless Bass: Brian Wiebe
Hammond: Malcolm Petch
Background Vocals & Beer bottle sound effect: Ari Neufeld
Pedal Steel: Graham Ord
Drums: Eric Funk
Electric Guitar: Andrew Smith
Camera and post production: Jan Vozenilek: http://www.copperskyproductions.com/
Jib operator: Paul Cotton
Photography: Kerby Gernander & Ingrid Boesten

A huge thank you to Jan Vozenilek (Copper Sky Productions) for believing in this story and generously donating his time & heart into this project. Please check out his other inspiring projects here: http://www.copperskyproductions.com/

2 Responses to “What Matters – the song and dream that changed me”
  1. Marcia Stacy says:

    Very beautiful and moving, thank you for sharing.

  2. Chad says:

    Man…This video is… Its been awhile since I have had a powerful emotional reaction to a Kelowna Artist’s expression. Just amazing. Legacy is everything. For me this is where heaven is. It is through the memory of our loved ones (Good and Bad) that carries on their identity. One day we will die and we will leave a legacy. We can only hope to leave a legacy like your father. Your father sounds like a great man.

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